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PART XIII

THE COST OF OTHERS MISS 

SEEING US

FORTY-NINE

THE COST OF OTHERS MISS SEEING US

Have you ever had someone in your life who called you names? They may be calling you the same name over and over again. Are you stupid? And why were you an idiot? Real loser? You may even start to feel like a loser. 

Have you ever been to a party with somebody who doesn’t like you? You know what I mean. You walk in and you see that person. What happens after? You begin to act differently. How does knowing what another thinks of you affect how you behave? 

Have you ever entered a room full of people who do not see you correctly?

How did this affect your behavior?

Surely it altered it.

Why did it alter it?

Did it make you nervous? Ask yourself why you became nervous.

Could you feel what everyone was thinking when you entered the room? 

Consciously you may not have registered it but subconsciously you did feel they were all thinking one thing and it was not in alignment with who you really were. Maybe they thought you were weird, strange, didn't fit in for whatever reason, or maybe they all knew something about you or thought they knew something about you. 

These scenarios demonstrate the awkwardness that comes from these types of moments. We forget Social Media is no different. When we fragment our souls and put pieces of ourselves out as misrepresentations that do not fully encompass us, or give cunt tax to the humans we are recruiting, we sell personas to the human minds around us. This is no different than the scenarios children have growing up. The only difference is you were in a physical room or on a physical playground with these other children.

What happened afterwards? How does it feel to know others see you in a way that is not the way you are? Would you begin to act differently? Maybe on a subconscious level you made an alternate behavior to sit in. What is it that you feel when you are in a room and people think something and you know they think something that’s not true of you? Have you ever been in the presence of somebody who doesn’t like you? How does that feel?

You know. You know what I mean. We’ve all been around these fake people, we've all been around great pretenders and even the best pretenders are often felt in the gut. What is it that puts you off about the scenario?

Is it that they are not portraying accurate emotions, meaning they are only acting happy towards you and loving or friendly? Or is it much deeper than that? Could it be…do you know they do not like you? And I bet you know why they do not like you. Meaning I bet you know what they think about you that you do not believe is true. Guaranteed if they do not like you there’s something about you they do not like.

Often when people do not see eye to eye that “something” the other person doesn’t like is not seen by the other or accepted. Maybe Susie doesn’t like Sally because Sally talks too much. Sally doesn’t think she talks too much. Brandon doesn’t love spending time with Mark because he feels that he repeats everything he hears. Mark doesn’t think he overshares at all.

The basis of not liking a person begins with not liking something about them. Nobody doesn’t like somebody over nothing. There is always a reason behind not liking somebody. Most people would believe the reason they were upset in the presence of these people is because they are not acting authentically – they know they do not like them, yet they are being nice to them. They believe the reason they are upset and the reason they do not like being around them – the reason they hate running into that person – is because they are fake in emotion.

I would argue it has nothing to do with emotion at all. Your issue with these people and these sorts of interactions has a route that upsets you, and that route is not being in agreement over who you are as a person.

Likely you love yourself. Likely you think highly of yourself. When you are around people who you know do not like you, your gut is lighting up from self-love; it is alerting you that this person is danger. They do not see you in the best light; they do not see you for who you are.

The alarm is going off in your gut not because they are smiling, and you know they are thinking differently; your alarm is going off because they reject who they think you are as a person. The rejection that decides fashion interaction is happening on a deeper root level. The soul's greatest need is its greatest security – to be understood. 

When it is misunderstood, the soul will experience a match rejection and the alarm will go off to warn the mind. Your soul doesn’t care, they are smiling at you, so I will not accept being around people who do not share the same truth about who I am as a human.

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